Male Singles: Bachelors for life?

If the girl does not get married for a long time, her relatives and friends usually start to show anxiety. However, there is a completely different attitude to men. There is an impression that the woman should create family while she is young, and the man has nowhere to hurry. A prolonged girlhood is considered to be undesirable, but a man who has no family at 35 is quite a normal phenomenon. The explanation seems to be simple: the man is not the one who gives birth, it is the woman who bears and gives birth to the child. Even more so as after 30 years of age pregnancy and childbirth are generally harder. Therefore the woman aspires to get married. But as research carried out by psychologists shows, the ability to become a father is considerably reduced with age. A prolonged bachelorhood could affect a man's potency and besides results in considerable mental damage. Therefore psychologists advise that men should marry young.

The supporters of late marriages believe that at first people should live for themselves, without any constraints on entertainment, trips, free money expenditure. It is possible to include casual sexual relations in this list. There people develop their own point of view on intimacy: as long as I am not going to marry, it is not very important who would be today's girl. There is a great price for such liberties. Men suffer from venereal diseases, in some cases lose confidence or, on the contrary, start to feel as if everything was allowed to them.

Certainly, not all single men are involved in casual sexual behavior, not everyone has made a motto out of the principle of pleasure. Among them there are a lot of people absorbed by the work, creativity, people with firm moral foundations. But all the same they are deprived of many things, as any creative activity could not replace a home.

An absence of duties, a lack of necessity to care about the family change the person and spoil the character. As a result of such a way of life a selfish, dry, incapable of self-sacrifices person is formed, who avoids the everyday pleasures and worries. If there is still no family until old age and the man stays alone, he frequently turns into an old bachelor who is either a sad sceptic or a cold cynic, or just an unhappy person. And whatever the result, all bachelors believe that neither fidelity, nor unselfish love really exist. Italian psychologists have established that among bachelors conducting a chaotic way of life there are more serious diseases and there is a higher risk to die at 40-50. Think about it, men!

Let us have a look at a "confirmed bachelor". It is a single man of 35-40 years of age. He has a pleasant appearance, good wages, a separate apartment. He is immune to harmful habits. Singles cook for themselves, wash and buy clothing. On holidays he is always in the company of married friends, who have been attempting for some ten years to find him a bride out of single or divorced women, but without any success. Sometimes he gets interested in someone, but they part after a certain time. The bachelor thinks that this applicant is not good enough for a wife. He is difficult to cope with, because life experience does not really help. Furthermore, the process of selection is agonizing for many people. When a man is young, he is guided by feelings, but when there are no ardent feelings, a question arises - "whom to select?" The bachelor is always sure that in future he would meet someone more cute, more interesting than today's companion.

This is exactly what he feels when he comes to a marriage agency. It is possible to add that a bachelor constantly feels like a fiancé, he tries to shine, to be liked, this role satisfies him. Finally, bachelor begins to feel that marriage is for the weak, and he manages the difficulties and wins over critical situations by himself. He never complains of loneliness. A bachelor is proud of the fact that the attention of the women is focused on him. But at the same time he lfeels offence at the oppositee sex. Psychologists consider solitude to always result in selfishness. It is the consequence of a long adaptation to yourself, listening to your state of mind, rechecking your own tastes, elevated into the law and the rule.

There is also the category of the men, who do want to create a family, but because of ordinary appearance, the inability to maintain a conversation, the absence of "courage" they do not succeed. Dating services could really help this kind of singles, as much as the assistance of close ones and friends. The general advice to singles is as follows: change your views on family life, do not wait for the woman of your choice to correspond to all of your requirements, and also do not fear difficulties, especially financial and housing. Remember that in the old age it is lonely and empty without a family (children, grandsons), without the warmth of close ones.

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